I
really enjoyed comparing some of the similarities to how my life operates
currently. I try to take something from everything that I read. As I have
expressed before I have been exposed to a lot of different ways of thought.
In
Chapter 5 talks about leadership, and it is something I have struggled with
from my supervisor at work. I sometimes find myself in a reverse role with her
and have to really strive to work at being helpful instead of criticizing. She
is new to management and I have found myself more often than not trying to find
creative ways to communicate and empower her. We have had our struggles because
I have more experience in my respective field but declined her position when it
was offered to me. I realized that what they were asking me to do for the
salary wasn’t worth it in the loss of sleep. She has been open to feed back and
she watches what I do with the clients. I always empower them to step up and
take a lead role once they get to a place where they don’t think about only
themselves and what they aren’t getting. I try to teach them things like
gratitude, acceptance, meditation, awareness, humility and service. Confession
of their shortcomings and letting go of the need for perfection is an important
one. Instead of focusing on perfection we focus of progress. That way it leaves
room for knowledge and growth. Keep in mind that I teach adults these things;
somewhere life has failed them. I love what I do. Hope is always worth getting
up for in the morning!
Rule
number 6 reminds me of the book “The 4 Agreements, by Don Ruiz” The first
agreement is “Don’t take things personally” Basically, the teaching says that
every judgment someone else puts on me is a part of their own belief system. In
short, it has nothing to do with me. While it is important to look at our
shortcomings, people make mistakes. SO WHAT. Good leadership invites change
through alternate action. If everyone was disposable then we would all be
unemployed. Plain and simple, correct the action and move on. Or ask yourself.
How important is this going to be in 5 years?
Chapter
7 reminds me of a principle that I live by, acceptance. A sometimes situation
hurt but learning how to let things move through you instead of sit on you is
the way to acceptance of the way things are. When I take things personally I
can’t be in acceptance. I start sending a message over and over in my head
about being a bad person. I am not a bad person I just made a mistake. I ask
myself, what is the solution to this problem. If I am living in the solution
then it easy to accept things the way they are, because they can be fixed. Stay
positive!
I
love chapter 8! We all hold back for fear of rejection. Self-acceptance is the
key to allowing our selves to live. Once we can be free of that fear we can
live wholly. With each growing phase of our lives we encounter fear. Or, at
least I have encountered fear. I am at one of those cross roads now. Everything
in my being wants to stay put at the job I am at currently. However, I know
what drives me. I have set a goal for my self, if I am not moving towards what
I want to be in six months I will move on. My responsibility in that is to have
a voice about what I see could happen. I trust that what I have done here at
Full Sail will open the necessary doors to fulfilling my passion. It is my responsibility
to give way to that.
I enjoyed your insight on these chapters, especially your comment on letting things move through you instead of letting thing sit on you. It is always interesting to read what people have to say because people speak through their experiences, and thank you for your insight. Your comment of correct the action and move on sounds a lot like “don’t fix the blame, fix the problem,” Robert Schuller. That statement rings with resonance. Sometimes we waist a lot of time playing the blame game, that we lose track of what we were doing. Thank you for your post.
ReplyDeleteTania,
ReplyDeleteI loved your post. The Four Agreements is one of my favorite books and I keep it on my nightstand to look back on every once and again. The way you conduct yourself at work shows a lot about you as a person. I'm sure your supervisor greatly appreciates that you are aware of her situation and show support for her in your own way. You are indeed putting "leading from any chair" into practice. I respect your courage in goal setting and it seems that you have very strong convictions and are sure to do great things in the future.